I muse about intimacy with all aspects of the Self and the mysterious art of unraveling. Pull up a chair, curious one.
Everything is amiss right now.
And much of it is long overdue (except for the pandemic, because that can go straight back into the depths of hell).
If you’ve been tuning in to your news channels or your social media feeds for even a millisecond during this last week, you’ve likely seen brands, leaders, and influencers emerge to fill the chasm of silence, take their quiet ideologies, and finally put them into visible action.
And sure, if we’re in a position of power, of privilege, of leadership, then we are given a greater responsibility to use those positions for good. Anything less feels like blatant and inexcusable approval.
But here’s the caveat: Being in the position to DO GOOD does not mean that you’re prepared OR equipped to actually do the work.
And what’s more? This can be where the rule of doing more harm than good comes into play.
If you want to be an agent of change, then you have to earn the right to speak into someone’s life. This is the danger many of us are facing right now. We’re being called into the ever-so-critical conversation. But few of us have adequately prepared.
You don’t have to wave your woke flag for everyone to see.
If you’re white, you don’t have to make an impassioned diatribe about your white privilege.
Read the fucking room.
That means not just clucking our tongues and re-sharing one post, or alerting the world we are sad. It’s educating ourselves about institutionalized racism here in the US and around the world. It’s by engaging with the comments on social media posts. It’s by donating to relevant causes and supporting black and brown business owners. It’s by muting YOUR own regularly scheduled programming and handing the mic over.
Have you earned that right?
Here’s a roundup of links, people to follow, and ways you can help take a stand against racial inequality.
This eye-opening thread from Shenee Howard, about allowing Black people to contribute value outside of engaging with their trauma, and constantly unpacking racism for you.
This list of incredible black artists to familiarize yourself with, support, and buy from, via @KianaMaiArt on Twitter.
This thread with a list of FABULOUS black-owned Etsy shops via @pop_reader on Twitter.
This list of Black-owned makeup brands, by ShoppeBlack—a great place to find fantastic Black-owned companies.
This list of black-owned businesses in the online marketing space, via a thread by Jade Connelly-Duggan (this list includes strategists, brand experts, copywriters, video editors, consultants, VA’s, yoga/dance instructors, etc).
This excellent FB live by Rachel Rodgers, discussing the unfolding of recent events inside the B-School community, and encouraging white liberal business owners to examine their performativity.
This FB live by Trudi Lebrón, also exploring the B-School issue, and sharing a discussion about what an EXPLICIT commitment to justice, equity, diversity, and inclusion in your business looks like.
This constantly-updated list of “75 things White People can do for Racial Justice,” via Corinne Shutack on Medium.
Rise, a course to help women through this time of global crisis by founder of Self-Made Ladies, Letitia Elizabeth. It’s pay-what-you-can, but if you can afford the $111 suggested investment, you can sponsor a woman of color joining the course, as well.
An Introduction to Social Justice and Antiracism for the White Community, a course by Mirna Valerio, featuring an amazing lineup of experts! There are only 40 spots available for this one, but I believe there are a few left. 🙂
And, of course, this EPIC list of anti-racism resources for white people.
While we pray for all those protesting, as well as the injured, impacted, and afraid, I leave you with an important quote from Martin Luther King, Jr.:
“Certain conditions continue to exist in our society, which must be condemned as vigorously as we condemn riots. But in the final analysis, a riot is the language of the unheard.
And what is it that America has failed to hear? It has failed to hear that the plight of the N__ro poor has worsened over the last few years. It has failed to hear that the promises of freedom and justice have not been met. And it has failed to hear that large segments of white society are more concerned about tranquility and the status quo than about justice, equality, and humanity.
And so in a real sense, our nation’s summers of riots are caused by our nation’s winters of delay. And as long as America postpones justice, we stand in the position of having these recurrences of violence and riots over and over again. Social justice and progress are the absolute guarantors of riot prevention.”
Thank you for reading. Let’s keep fighting the good fight.
Through my unabashed content creation and immersive retreats, I provide the proverbial lodging—and emotional sustenance—as my clients traverse rocky terrain in search of meaning.
Get down like the Stoics but cling fiercely to that tender heart: INVINCIBLEish is a powerful, short guide to unperturbed living. You’ll be so unbothered they’d think you were media trained.
Seek refuge and take up residence inside the Red Velvet Project where we powerfully tend to the fluency of Self.